Compromise addiction

Balance is hard. One of the first hard lessons an infant learns is that they can't do whatever they want. As we grow older, it's possible to compromise who we are just to get by all the time.
Some say it's good to keep the peace. Others think it's more important to be ourselves. So what's the answer?
I think an answer is the book of Job (in the Old Testament Bible) where everything was taken away and his friends kept asking him what he did wrong to deserve this (oversimplification). When real change comes, it is always a little like death. All belief and securities are uprooted so you are left with the foundation. There can be no compromise here.